Entering a committed and long term relationship is not an easy task. After the initial honeymoon phase has worn out, many of us begin to notice the little idiosyncrasies that grow to becoming annoying habits. Whilst we may have turned a blind eye once before to these annoying little habits, as the relationship progress, these habits can grow into explosive problems. For some, such habits can destroy the relationship. Most of us will acknowledge that we also may exhibit such annoying traits or habits, and perfection is something that definitely not attainable. So how do we ensure that our relationship stands the test of time, or in some cases the test of annoying habits? We have provided five simple steps to follow to ensure that your relationship is always on the ball.
1. Words of affirmation: Compliment your partner, and use words of appreciation. Provide your partner with encouragement, and show empathy to show that you can see the world from your partner's perspective. Learn about your partner. Find out what is important to them, what do they value the most. Finding out about your partner provides you with the opportunity to show that you believe in them, that you have faith in them and their abilities. Speak kindly and speak in a manner that represents understanding and kindness. Make requests, not demands as a request introduces the element of choice. Lastly, use indirect compliments, that is, speaking positively about your partner when they are not around.
2. Quality Time: Quality time does not entail existing in the same household. Rather, quality time is about being together, being within close proximity. Share time with one another, engage in an activity together and engage in conversation. This means sharing thoughts, feelings and emotions with one another. Unlike affirmation, the focus is about what is being heard rather than was is being said.
3. Giving and Receiving Gifts: Let your partner know that you are thinking of them. Giving your partner a gift, whether it is small or large, expensive or inexpensive symbolises that you are thinking of them. Whether you decide to make something for your partner, write them a letter, email or simply give them a call, the action shows that you are thinking of them. Letting your partner know that you think of them and love them is an important gift to give, and important to receive. It affirms how you feel towards one another, and strengthens the relationship.
4. Act of service: Ensuring that you help your partner is vital to letting them know that you care. Whether it is vacuuming, or mowing the lawn, these little things indicate partnership and thoughtfulness. Also, it's important to note what your partner is doing for you. Remember to thank them for their help, as this allows them to understand that you have acknowledged the effort that they have made for you.
5. Physical Touch: The touch of love may incorporate various physical actions. A loving touch can entail giving your partner a massage, sexual intercourse or back rub. Touch can also entail resting your hand on your partner's shoulder, a hug or kiss. It's important to discuss what you and your partner desire sexually, and how you both perceive the expression of love making. Simple touches, kisses or cuddles on the couch symbolises love and desire for your partner. Individuals who strive to give their partners a hug or kiss, and who openly discuss their sexual desires often have a stronger connection with their partner. Touching rekindles the old flame, and often helps to re-create the honeymoon phase.
Relationships require hard work and commitment. Couples must be committed to one another, and committed to ensuring that the relationship is important enough to put in the hard yards. Strong relationships also experience difficult times, however if you follow these steps, and build a strong foundation, then chances are you will find yourself in a relationship that will stand the test of time.
Damon Taylor is Director of Kiss the Bride Wedding Directory
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