Saturday, May 16, 2009

The Magic of Yoga - Inspiration For Beginners

As you practice Yoga, you begin to notice changes in the way you react to events at work and situations at home. With aches and pains no longer nagging you, with your nervous system in a state of calmness, and with your mind not congested with frantic thoughts, you find that you are able to respond to life quite differently from the way in which you once did. Suppose someone swerves in front of you when you're driving along the freeway. Previously, you may have felt threatened, angry, or frightened. However, since you just emerged from a Yoga class, calmness pervades your being and you are able to react quickly and avert an accident! Also, instead of typical angry responses, you can be slightly humored by the driver's behavior and by our cultural obsession to get everywhere in a hurry. In addition, with the spacious feeling in your mind, you have room to entertain other thoughts. You are able to think, "Maybe that person's wife is seriously ill in the hospital, and he needs to get there in a hurry." You maintain your calm focus, and then drive safely home.

Suppose that a family member says or does something that might make you defensive and upset. As you practice Yoga, especially combined with meditation, you develop inner awareness and the presence of mind to catch these emotions before they manifest as angry, hurtful words. You are able to ask yourself, "Is there some truth in what they are saying?" After all, whenever you open a box, the only thing that can come out is that which is already inside. Ask yourself why anger would be in your box, and why does it come out so easily? Now you are able to go inside and look at yourself so that, next time, a similar situation does not evoke a similar reaction.

There is more to Yoga than poses. As you progress along the path, you learn how to use the calm feelings and wise philosophies that underlie Yoga in all aspects of your life. You carry yoga in your mind, in your words, and in your heart.

Life is designed to be joy, not sorrow; fulfillment, not punishment; abundance, not deprivation. Yoga is about finding bliss, our very nature, in all the minute, meandering movements of our lives. When you do this, you live Yoga. Then you have a smile in your heart and sleep more at peace when the sun has finally set on the day.

Aadil Palkhivala 2008

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Friday, May 15, 2009

Increase Your Creative Thinking Ability and Reduce Your Stress by Using the Brain Dump Exercise

Introduction

Very often in business leaders fight so many fires and don't give themselves the opportunity to think and act strategically.It is my humble opinion that senior managers are paid higher salaries because of their ability to think. So what happens if that skill is inhibited or impeded?Very obviously not only will the manager suffer but so will their business and their team.We only have to look at recent events in the world economy to see what happens when smart people stop thinking.

This exercise is simple and straightforward and is designed to help you to achieve clarity in your thinking.One of the main blocks to this clarity is the amount of information that we hold in our heads.This exercise helps you get a better perspective on your thoughts which should lead to actions that are thought through which will improve your own effectiveness and performance.


In addition to clarifying your thinking this exercise will help you to:

you organise your thoughts
clear space for creative thinking
prioritise your thoughts
get a better/different perspective
improve your way of thinking
reduce stressful thinking

The Brain Dump Exercise

Give yourself 30 minutes to start this exercise.You will come back to it on a regular basis. You will need three different coloured pens or pencils

  1. Get yourself a new reporters notepad and sit at your desk
  2. Ask yourself this question: "what's on my mind in relation to my work" (this question can be changed to suit whatever may be blocking your thinking at any one time)
  3. What ever comes to your mind write it on a blank sheet of the reporters pad in one of the colours (keep this same colour for each idea)
  4. Flip over the sheet and repeat steps 2-4 until you have everything that has been on your mind now on a blank sheet of paper.Don't try and save paper by writing on the back - the rule is one idea to one sheet
  5. Find a clear space, a clear table for instance and rip out each of the sheets of paper.

Steps 6 to 11 are optional as they are to help you prioritise your thinking

6. Arrange each of these sheets of paper in order of importance.

7. Start with the least important item and with one other the other coloured pens write in the bottom right hand corner the number 1.Take the next least important item and write in the bottom right hand corner a 2.Repeat until all of the bits of paper have a number of the same colour in the bottom right hand corner.They should now be numbered 1 to X where is the total number of bits of paper.

8. Now re-arrange the bits of paper in order of urgency.

9. Start with the least urgent item and with the remaining coloured pen write in the bottom left hand corner the number 1.Take the next least urgent item and write in the bottom right hand corner a 2.Repeat until all of the bits of paper have a number of the same colour in the bottom left hand corner.They should now be numbered 1 to X where is the total number of bits of paper.

10.Now add up the two numbers.

11.Arrange the bits of paper in descending order (highest number to the lowest).

12.Starting with the piece of paper with the highest number, or whichever feels most important for you, write down what comes to you.This can be anything, a thought, a feeling, an action to take, whatever.If nothing comes then use de Bono's six thinking hats.Simply ask yourself:

a. White hat: what are the facts and figures about this thought?

b. Red tat: what's my intuition telling me about this idea?

c. Black hat: what are the difficulties/problems/challenges with this thought?

d. Yellow hat:what are the benefits/positive aspects of this thought?

e. Green hat: if I were to be creative about this, what would I say/do/feel/change?

f. (Optional, maybe not appropriate) Blue Hat: what's my thinking about my thinking?

13.Once you have written down anything to do with that idea move onto the next idea.

14.Review the sheets either at the start or the end of the day or you can come back to this exercise whenever you want to add more thoughts to a particular idea or to start on an idea.

15.Keep the sheets of paper with you for the next few weeks and as your thoughts evolve maybe you will let go of some of these ideas because you have acted on them or maybe they no longer have any valid substance.

Start to notice how much clearer your mind is becoming and how much more you are better able to structure your thinking.What other changes do you notice as you do this exercise?

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Eliminating Negative Media From

The Heretic's Daughter - Religion, Fear and the Salem Witch Trials

The Heretic's Daughter is author Kathleen Kent's first novel, and it is a stunning debut. It takes place in and around Salem, Massachusetts during the 1690's, before and during the infamous Salem witch trials. The narrator's mother, Martha Carrier, is based on the real woman of the same name, who was one of the first woman to be tried and hung in the trials. Ms. Kent is herself a tenth generation descendant of Martha Carrier.

Ms. Kent has done her research, and she does a beautiful job of depicting the harsh realities of life during this time. While the initial Puritan settlers had come to this land to escape persecution, and hoped to found a new religious community, they were besieged by plagues, crop failures, and attacks by indigenous tribes. The child mortality rate was so high, we are told in the first pages, "that some families did not name their child until the child was past twelve months and more likely to live. And in many households if a baby died, that same baby's name would be passed on to the next born. And to the very next if that babe died as well."

This is from the novel's narrator, Sarah Carrier, Martha Carrier's daughter. If Sarah sometimes seems distant and unfeeling as she describes horrific events, it is no wonder, based on the climate in which she was raised. In fact, Sarah's voice and attitude was at first a put-off to me, making her difficult to relate to or feel for. But as the novel progresses, her voice becomes one of the book's greatest strengths, because it provides such a vast contrast to our emotion-laden, Oprah-fueled times. Sarah helps us to see what a stark and difficult existence does to people, and as she does mature - through watching her mother's trial and surviving her own incarceration - her growth and new-found wisdom is that much more evident.

As the novel begins, Sarah and her family are on their way to live with her grandmother, and, unbeknown to them, are bringing smallpox with them to their new community. This fact, along with Martha Carrier's headstrong and outspoken nature, will ultimately lead to the family becoming a target when the terrible accusations begin. Those accusations, as presented in The Heretic's Daughter, gain traction in the community because of the lethal combination of fear and damnation-based religion. The community, facing so many challenges to its existence, cannot fathom why they are being targeted by God for such wrath. Surely there must be some offense, some sin, that they are being punished for? In their desperation, they seek out the 'sinners' amongst them, literally demonizing their own neighbors for the smallest of offenses. They seek to scapegoat and purge - as so many have done in the name of religion throughout history.

From there, the paralysis of fear takes over, with each new charge silencing more people within the community, all seeking to protect their own lives and families. Children as young as four are taken into custody - since the 'devil' is behind it all, and can take over anyone's mind, no one is considered innocent. Quite the contrary, during the trials the defendants are most definitely considered guilty until proven innocent. And their innocence is in the hands of several hysterical, adolescent girls no less (I'll let you read the book to learn more about this.)

One of the most touching aspects of the book is how Martha gets Sarah to save herself, helping Sarah to realize that behind her mother's stern exterior lies the greatest of maternal loves. While Sarah at first despises her mother's difficult personality, wishing she would just capitulate to others, she comes to realize her mother's seeming obstinance is actually born of tremendous faith and wisdom. This is exactly the opposite of what her community elders teach - that strict obedience is the foundation for faith. As Sarah observes, that obedience, along with fear, is what allows the madness to continue for so long.

And so The Heretic's Daughter works on at least three levels. First, as a gripping historical novel that masterfully depicts a certain setting and time period. Second, as a personal story of a mother and adolescent daughter struggling to understand each other. And third, as a cautionary tale about how religion can be twisted when a society is ruled by fear.

Lisa Erickson is a mom, meditation teacher, and writer. Visit her blog http://www.MommyMystic.wordpress.com for spiritual book reviews and information on meditation and spirituality.

Spending 15 Minutes Each Day

Spirituality and Mysticism

Most of us have a dual outlook on life. On one level, we simply do all the things we must do every day-work, eat, play. . . . But on another level, we hope there is more to life-something that feels deeply real, a goal worthy of any effort, a grand overarching scheme. This hope is usually pushed into the background because it is so strongly discouraged by the materialistic values that prevail in our culture.

But suppose we do not wish to settle for a materialism that dulls our vitality. We might look for wisdom in conventional religion, or for self-knowledge in psychology and the workings of the brain, but these do not aim high enough. We might look to science with its hope of unraveling the secrets of the universe and providing for the material well-being of all, but these, too, are ultimately not satisfying. Where, then, are we to find what we long for? Nasrudin, the mythical Middle Eastern jokester-sage, asks the same question:

It's 4:00 A.M. Nasrudin leaves the tavern and walks the town aimlessly. A policeman stops him. AWhy are you out wandering the streets in the middle of the night?@ "Sir," replied Nasrudin, "if I knew the answer to that question, I would have been home hours ago!"

To find what we desire, we must dig deeper. We must discern the essence of spirituality; we must see what is beyond psychology and the workings of the brain; we must see what physics can tell us about the nature of existence.

And we must fly higher, until we have such an encompassing view that we can see the connections between spirit, brain, and physics, and ultimately discern the structure of all existence. When we can see this, and when we can begin to see why existence was brought into being, then we will find a goal worthy of any effort.

PHYSICAL & NONPHYSICAL
The pivotal issue, at least in the beginning of our search, is the nature of existence, particularly human existence. In this scientific age, we are led to think that existence is strictly physical. If that is so, then it seems to me that life is indeed full of sound and fury, but signifies nothing. However, as we will see, science does not imply that existence is strictly physical. In fact, one of the basic themes of this book is that our existence here on earth has both physical and nonphysical aspects. The division is sharp, but the two aspects are closely intertwined in our lives. Strange as it seems at first, we will find it is this division that leads to a unified view of existence, a view that will allow us to make deep, satisfying sense of our lives.

These two aspects of existence have been explored by very different methods and disciplines. The experimental probing and mathematical description of the physical aspects are the province of physics, while the study and experience of the nonphysical aspects of existence are the provinces of mysticism. Spirituality, or mysticism, in its various guises provides the core of all religions. The aspiring mystic is one who fervently hopes there is a nonphysical aspect to existence where worthy goals for our lives can be found. One purpose of this book is to nurture that hope by showing that science does not preclude mysticism, and by delineating the basics of mysticism in a clear and useful form.

Note: The terms "spirituality" and "mysticism" are used pretty much interchangeably in this book. But spirituality usually implies an orientation closer to the major religions, while mysticism is meant to imply the study and experience of nonphysical existence in all its forms, including phenomena like mind reading. For lack of a better term, the word "mystic" is used here both for those on a more spiritual path and for those on a more "mystical" path.

QUANTUM MECHANICS AS THE BRIDGE TO MYSTICISM
If the nonphysical aspect of existence is to be of interest or use to us, then there must be some connection between our familiar physical world and the nonphysical world. The all-important bridge between the two is found in quantum mechanics, the theory that physicists use to mathematically describe the physical universe. (Rest assured that you will not need to understand anything about mathematics to read this book, nor do you need any prior knowledge of physics.) Physicists have a high degree of confidence in quantum mechanics because it gives a highly accurate, wide-ranging, and unified description of nature.

Quantum mechanics, however, has one astonishing "flaw." Although it is an accurate description of physical reality, its mathematics implies there are many versions of reality that exist simultaneously, rather than there being only the single reality that we actually perceive. For example we will see in chapter 8 that the mathematics of quantum mechanics appears to allow Schrdinger's cat to be both dead and alive at the same time. To get around this "flaw," most physicists assume that quantum mechanics is an incomplete theory of the physical universe and that it needs to be supplemented by the presumed existence of particles-electrons, atoms and so on-to become complete. We show, however, that there is no evidence for the existence of particles and convincing evidence that there cannot be particles. In that case, quantum mechanics strongly implies there must be a nonphysical aspect to existence!

Further, quantum mechanics tells us something about the nonphysical aspects of existence. It implies that each of us, in addition to having a physical brain and body, also has a nonphysical Mind (or soul in traditional language, or consciousness principle in Buddhist language). Your nonphysical Mind, through its connection with your physical brain, can freely and intelligently choose your thoughts and actions. This is the bridge between the physical and nonphysical aspects of our existence.

The split within us that I stress-a physical brain-body and a nonphysical Mind-gives a dualistic existence. This may seem jarring in a book on spirituality, where one might expect the unity and connectedness of all things to be stressed. But although it is true that in the end the duality disappears, the journey to the full experience of that unity is long. And on the journey, particularly in the beginning, the structure of existence is made clearer-both conceptually and experientially-if one stresses the dual nature of existence. This dual view is also consistent with that great duality none of us can escape-the difference between the physical existence we experience while alive, and the nonphysical existence we experience after death.

WHAT FORM OF SPIRITUALITY OR MYSTICISM?
There are many grades and types of mystics, from healers to psychics to whirling dervishes to the Dalai Lama to rishis living in caves in the Himalayas. And there are different systems of spirituality that have been developed over hundreds and even thousands of years in religions such as Hinduism, Buddhism, Sufism, certain branches of Christianity and Judaism, and so on (although most of these systems contain historical accretions as well as vital spirituality).

The system I will use is based on a modern form of Sufi mysticism1 that incorporates the wisdom of other systems, but it is modified to be consistent with the insights we will glean from physics and neuroscience. Sufism is an ancient way of knowing that does not correspond exactly to any of the better-known religions. It might be described as the religion of experience. The Sufis, ideally, are those who accurately understand and experience all levels of existence, particularly those associated with the deepest emotions. A more traditional definition of Sufism would be that it is the mystical, esoteric branch of Islam, a branch that started with Muhammad's cousin and son-in-law Ali, flowered in the twelfth and thirteenth centuries, and continues today.

It is my hope that making spirituality-mysticism consistent with science will clarify it so it is both accessible and appealing to many more people than it has been in the past. In fact, despite the materialistic bent of our society, I believe it is an advantage for the aspiring mystic to be living in the age of science, for as we will see, physics can help to clarify the metaphysical structure of existence, and neuroscience can help in distinguishing between physical brain-body effects and nonphysical insights, and in understanding spiritual practices.

BELIEF VERSUS EXPERIENCE
If you are not familiar with the mystical point of view, it may appear simply as a belief system. But if you have the feeling it could be correct, if you think these ideas might serve as a useful guide for some period of your life, and if you do the mystical practices with your full attention on them, then I think you will begin to see that the mystic=s view of existence may be experienced, rather than being just a belief system. You may begin to appreciate the possibility that awareness doesn't end with death. And you may begin to see that the potential exists for a radically different, much richer life here.

From the early age of 7, Casey Blood was interested in spirituality, math and science. His parents encouraged him to become an astronaut or aeronautical engineer, but for Casey, physics was obviously the best choice. In his local Presbyterian church Casey always acknowledged the pull of mysticism upon his soul, but found no information to guide him. Casey followed his love of math and science into academia, earning a PhD from Case Western University and tenure as Professor Emeritus of Physics at Rutgers University. He has pursued his fascination with spirituality in over thirty years of studying mystical and meditative religions such as Sufism, Shamanism and Buddhism. He has also traveled extensively to gain firsthand experience in these traditions as practiced in India, Turkey, Bali, Israel, China, and Peru.

When asked ,Why physics and spirituality?, Casey replies, "I always want to know what is behind or beneath everything, to understand the roots of everything. In my view, physics and spirituality are the most basic systems. For that reason, it seemed they had to fit together. I made the search for this bridge my life's work." The Way From Science to Soul: Integrating Physics, the Brain, and the Spiritual Path, represents the results of Casey's search . He says, "I hope the reader will never see the world the same way again...that they will discover that mystical religion is less an esoteric thing and more like the way life is, more wondrous than most people realize." Casey's book is available on amazon.com and more information is available at: http://www.quantummechanicsandreality.com

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Are There Buddhist Nuns?

Yes, there are Buddhist nuns. They are called bhikkhunis. Nuns were an important part of the early Buddhist community. The monastic practice of women continues to be significant in the Buddhist community today. We may have some problems with the story about the origin of this community of nuns because of our presuppositions, but let's look at it anyway with an open mind.

The Buddha's aunt, Mahapajapati, asked him if he will be willing to ordain her as a nun. Until this time, only men were accepted into his monastic organization. The Buddha refused. She pressed him again and again. He finally agreed to do it, but with a couple of restrictive stipulations.

One was that the nuns would have to abide by an additional series of regulations, over and above the regulations that applied to the monks. One of the most important and controversial for us is that even the most senior nun would be junior to the most junior monk.

This tradition of nuns thrived in this early community and was an important part of the expansion of Buddhism on to South East Asia and into the rest of the world. There are now active communities of nuns, particularly in China, but the traditional practice of Buddhist nuns has died out now in South East Asia, although there are in some places attempts to reestablish that lineage.

If you want to be active communities of nuns today, you should look in China, Taiwan or Tibet.

What should we think about these additional stipulations that the Buddha imposed on this early community of nuns?

It is important not to characterize the early Buddhist tradition as diminishing the ability of women to achieve awakening. The possibility of monasticism for women has been an important part of the Buddhist community, and it represents the commitment to the possibility of Nirvana for women within the community.

It is true that there had been these additional restrictions on the status nuns can acquire in the Buddhist community. They reflect, I suspect, the restrictions on the behavior and the status of women in the context of the time.

To learn more about Buddhist teachings, traditions and practices, you might be interested in this site by author Pablo Antuna.



Wednesday, May 13, 2009

The Times They Are Changing

We live in a very interesting time in world history. The evolution of getting to this point has never been so dynamic. Even though all the events that have taken place prior to this point in time have great significance, and the fact that it is what brought us here, our current world environment has been propelled into the 21st century with lightening speed. The advancement of technology in communications, information, and the internet has created the instant information age. And with that our conscious minds have become more inter connected with the world than ever before.

What is interesting is that this phenomenon is the staging ground for all of us to become more enlightened. We are, and always have been connected to the entire universe. We all have roots in the universe because consciousness affects our physical world, which includes all living things right down to the individual cells. Our minds have a great influence on our health and well being and on how we view the world. Our existence in the universe is born of a sense of participation and kinship with all others and all matter. The basic oneness of the universe is the central characteristic of the mystical experience, but is also one of the most important revelations of modern physics, (i.e. quantum physics). But I don't want to talk about quantum theory; I want to talk about the human connectedness, and what I detect as a shift in the thinking of more and more people.

Because of the information age, a fast paced lifestyle, what's in it for me attitude, and a win at all cost mentality, too many people began losing sight of the connection we all have with each other and the universe. The ideal of we are all in this together was fading, and taking responsibility for the common good of all, had begun to disappear. Over the last decade, an exponential amount of negative actions and the pursuits of an ideology of egotism have brought us to this juncture. But there is hope because I see the beginning of a change in the minds of many people.

Now, more than ever people are placing an increased importance on relationships. Taking stock of what really matters, like family, friends, and community. There is a new awareness that we are all connected to the universe, and that human consciousness and the physical world are intertwined. The realization is that there is a profound interaction that exists between conscious mental activity and the physical world itself.

We cannot separate our own existence from that of the outside world. We are not only associated with the earth that we inhabit, but with the furthest reaches of the cosmos. We affect all of those about us, so events such as caring, loving, and confiding exert profound consequences on the universe.

Following the Laws of Attraction, the universe gives us what we want if follow our dreams and our passions, but it also takes away if we lose sight of that connection that exists between us all. I believe that there is a change in the winds of time because there is the beginning of an understanding of this relationship. Maybe, just maybe it could be the start of the new Age of Enlightenment.

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Compassion - A Powerful Doorway to Personal Growth

What if there was one choice you could make that would change everything in your life for the better? Actually, there is. Its the choice to move out of judgment and into compassion for yourself and others.

Compassion is defined as a deep caring for the pain of others, often accompanied by a desire to help. There is nothing that feels more wonderful and comforting than experiencing anothers compassionate response to our painful feelings and experiences.

However, its interesting that compassion is never defined in terms of oneself. Yet, compassion is one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves. In fact, when we give compassion to others but not to ourselves, we often end up feeling alone, worn out, and uncared for.

Jackie is a good example of a person who has compassion for others but not for herself. She is a very caring mother and wife. She listens compassionately to her husbands work problems and does all she can to help him, even when she is having her own work problems. She is always there for her children, helping them with whatever problems arise, as well as for her co-workers. Everyone sees Jackie as a very loving person and she is. So why is she often unhappy? Why is she often so fatigued and depleted? The problem is that Jackie is completely out of touch with her own feelings.

Jackie is so focused on meeting everyone elses needs that she never tunes into herself and her own feelings and needs. She doesnt know when she is tired or when she needs time for herself. She doesnt know when she is feeling sad, lonely, or anxious. Because she has no compassion for herself, she finds herself using food to fill the inner emptiness that is the result of not taking loving care of herself.

Richard, on the other hand, lacks compassion for both himself and others. While it may seem as if he has compassion for himself, he also is not tuned into his own feelings. It seems like Richard has compassion for himself because he does what he wants buys what he wants, goes after what he wants, spends time the way he wants. But his choices are coming from his fears and his addictive need to fill up from outside with things and approval rather than from love and compassion for himself. In addition, he is usually unconscious regarding the effect his behavior has on others. He keeps people waiting, doesnt do what he says he is going to do, and becomes judgmental rather than compassionate in the face of anothers difficulties. Instead of caring when his wife is tired or needs help, he gets resistant and resentful that she isnt there for him or is asking something of him.

A lack of compassion for oneself and others is a major cause of inner and relationship unhappiness. In terms of personal growth, if you were to just focus on making compassion your highest priority both for yourself and for others you would find yourself progressing toward happiness, peace and joy more rapidly than you can imagine.

We move into compassion for ourselves when we know that we have very good reasons for our feelings and behavior, and into compassion for others when we know that others also have very good reasons for their feelings and behavior. These good reasons are the fears and false beliefs that we have absorbed from our growing up years that create our painful feelings and our defensive behavior.

Moving into compassion is a process that takes time and practice:

1. Moving into compassion for yourself starts with noticing your self-judgment. Judgment is the opposite of compassion. When you judge yourself, you are telling yourself that you are wrong or bad for your feelings or behavior, rather than that you have good reasons. Each time you realize that you are judging yourself, consciously open your heart to compassion for yourself. When your intention is to be compassionate rather than judgmental, you will discover that it is not as hard as you think to shift from judgment to compassion.

2. Moving into compassion for others is similar. Begin to notice your anger, irritation, judgment, resentment, or resistance toward others. These negative feelings are the opposite of compassion. Once you notice these feelings, you have the choice to open to caring, understanding to compassion.

3. Each time you find yourself in judgment for yourself or others, instead of judging yourself for judging, move into compassion for the judgmental part of you. If you judge yourself for judging yourself or others, you will stay stuck. If you embrace with compassion the judgmental part of yourself, you will find yourself gradually becoming less judgmental and more compassionate.

Each time you are compassionate with yourself and others, it becomes easier next time. You will discover that focusing on compassion for both yourself and others will move you toward the peace and joy you are seeking. It all comes from your intent to protect against pain with your controlling behaviors, such as anger, blame and judgment, or to learn about loving yourself and others. When your deepest desire is to become a loving human being, opening to compassion is a powerful doorway to that path.

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Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the co-creator of a powerful self-help, 6-step emotional and spiritual healing process called Inner Bonding. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com